Recently I was complimented on my hair because they had never seen “4c” hair look like mine. I thanked her and explained that stretching methods like twist/ braid outs help to elongate my curls. On twitter a young lady posted if she had my hair texture she wouldn’t go natural. Initially I was upset, then I realized it’s not her fault that we have been trained to look at our natural curly hair as “bad”. Mentioned in Curls, Kinks, & Waves Oh My!, I spoke on rankings of what is considered “good hair” to “bad hair”. Bone straight down to loose curl or wave down to tight coils & kinks!? Like really hair is hair y’all!
Different types and textures does not mean that one class of hair is better than the other. Most girls think going natural automatically means they will have loose curly hair, and have a breakdown when they realize their real texture. I understand that natural hair is not the easiest to manage, especially when going to salons who want to add some chemical to make their job easier. The hair God graced you with is beautiful and how people react to it shouldn’t determine how you feel about yourself or your hair.
My staple products beginning with cleansing are:
Carol’s Daughter Tui Moisturizing Shampoo, Trader Joe’s Nourish Spa Conditioner or Carol’s Daughter Monoi Conditioner. For my deep condition, I tend to stick with Sof’ n Free Milk Protein & Olive Oil Deep Conditioning Treatment or Shea Moisture Deep Treatment Masque. I like to mix olive, coconut, or grapeseed oil, a drop or two of peppermint essential oil, and honey to my DC, especially during the harsh winter months. As for my leave in conditioner, I like to use Cantu Shea Butter Leave In Conditioning Repair Cream or Carol’s Daughter Tui Leave in Conditioner. My staple oil as of now is Grapeseed because it is light on my scalp and ends, but gets the job done. My staple styling cream is Monet’s Moisture Mix, Cantu Shea Butter Coconut Curling Cream, or Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curl Enhancing Smoothie.
Please hear me and hear me well there is no such thing as “bad” hair. The health of my hair is the most important thing to me not length or curl pattern. I don’t get sad when I go through social media and see that light skin loose curled women get more love and recognition than those of my complexion or curl type [unless caked in makeup or half naked, different topic different day]. To each is own and that’s ok, but remember to love every inch of you because God doesn’t make mistakes. Stay beautiful inside and out my loves.
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